A person who looks away while speaking does not necessarily mean that he is lying, but may only be a shy person.
Humans communicate with each other through speech, but also there are movements, looks and facial expressions, which is called body language.
And the Spanish “lavidalucida” website says – in a report Him – Humans have long discovered that nonverbal messages can be deciphered like any other language, meaning that every movement or signal can be translated into a specific meaning. As a result, many theories have emerged about body language, but some of them are quite far from reality.
There are several myths and misconceptions about the meanings of body language, which have been refuted by psychologists and sociologists:
– 90% of the information we receive is non-verbal
This idea is controversial, and although incorrect it is very popular. It all started in the 1960s, when University of California psychology professor Albert Merabian decided to study the human view of other people’s feelings.
In this study, participants were shown reading words in a variety of tones, and pictures of people with different facial expressions, and asked to identify the feeling or mood that they could infer from the images and words.
Based on the responses, the researcher concluded that we know the feelings and moods of others through facial expressions, manner of sitting, and tone of speech, in addition to the opinions they express orally.
This summary has been distorted and taken out of context, and is now used incorrectly, which forced the author of the study to clarify his findings.
And if it was true that humans get 90% of the information non-verbally, we would be able to watch an entire movie in a language we don’t know without the need for translation.
– A person who lies can’t look you in the eye
are you lying to me? look to my eye! We may have heard this sentence many times, especially in childhood, when we are trying to escape punishment in front of our parents or teacher. This idea is based on the assumption that the person who is lying tries to avoid direct eye contact.
In fact, children are inexperienced in hiding lies, and they do not avoid eye contact for the sake of it. As for adults, they can stare into your eyes with confidence and serenity without ever doubting their sincerity.
As for a person who looks away while speaking, this does not necessarily mean that he is lying, but may only be a shy person, or may suffer from autism spectrum disorder, or have problems concentrating.
– Detect the scammer when he turns aside or rubs his nose
It would be great if we were able to spot the cheater when he turns aside, rubs his nose, or rubs his hair with his hands, but it’s not that simple.
These ideas were mainly spread through NLP books, which focus on certain psychological techniques in order to manipulate others, communicate effectively, and achieve success. But scientists have confirmed that most of these theories and methods are completely ineffective.
– introverted behavior
This theory says that a person who puts his hands crossed over his chest is in fact trying to close his personal space and protect himself from others, because he feels uncomfortable and is afraid of aggressive behavior. This idea has spread so much, that some people are now avoiding this movement in public for fear of misunderstanding. Psychologists believe that placing the arms crossed on the chest is due to several reasons, including the need to calm down and deal with stress, or loss of patience, and sometimes fear. There are also other reasons such as wanting to imitate the person sitting in front of you, or to get some balance because you are sitting in an uncomfortable chair.
– Super woman
In 2012, psychologist and sociologist Amy Cady said that the way you sit not only reflects the human condition, but affects it. She believes that the Superwoman session, that is, opening the feet to be parallel to the shoulders, and raising the chin, affects the hormonal state of the person and makes him more confident and focused on his goals.
These ideas quickly became popular, and scholars focused on studying them to determine their credibility. In the end, they found that there was no concrete evidence that this session raises testosterone levels.
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